The Clock's Ticking...

Remember to vote for DallasChild and FortWorthChild’s Best for Families awards that will be announced in the Decmber issues of the magazines! Votes will be compiled on November 1, so that means Halloween is your last day to make your vote count!

Vote now! Go to www.dallaschild.com for DallasChild, or www.fortworthchild.com for FortWorthChild.

A Cautionary Halloween Tale....

Our friends at the Fort Worth Public Health Department are wonderful with advice about the West Nile virus, flu vaccines, and the occasional E.coli outbreak info, but yesterday they released a list of tips for Halloween safety, and I thought I’d pass them along. These tips are what you’ll likely be seeing on the news in the coming days, but, as always, better safe than sorry!

Things to remember for your trick-or-treaters:

Wear fitted costumes and shoes (to avoid falls)
Only carry flexible costume props (no hard plastic swords, etc)
Make sure masks fit well (for visibility purposes)
Use reflective material (so ghosts remain visible after dark)
Use the buddy system (and/or a chaperone)
Cross the street safely
Check treats for evidence of tampering
Always carry a flashlight in the group

Just a few good things to keep in mind for trick-or-treaters of all ages.

Have fun out there!

-Liz

If You Snooze...

Visit us this Saturday at NorthPark Center in front of Macy’s for our babyDallas Baby Fair and Cover Search. We’re looking for precious babies to don the cover of our Spring/Summer 2007 issue, and we want to see you and your newborn – 12 mo. old baby there! This year, we’ve changed things up, so come see what it’s all about. Also, we have our New Arrivals Baby Fair, sponsored by Presbyterian Hospital of Dallas, going on for those expecting and new families to enjoy and grab some information along the way. We’ll be there from 10a – 4p, so come see us!

Lauren

Peanut

If you’ve read our October issue (out on stands now) then you know my amazing, incredible news, but if you haven’t had the chance to peek inside our pages yet, then here it is, I can’t keep it a secret from our blog readers any longer: I’M PREGNANT!

I went in for my sonogram this morning, to check on the cyst situation (read last entry “Mustard Seeds” for backstory) and it appears I have not one, but four little “friends.” BUT … it seems they’re shrinking (which is why I was having such incredible cramping yesterday). So scary pain = great news … YAY! Now, back to the fun stuff.

On the morning of September 18, when I was scheduled to go in for blood work to see if I had ovulated on my first cycle of Clomid, I took a pregnancy test (just to see …) and lo and behold that little stick actually gave me a positive sign! After taking those things for nearly three years I was convinced I would never see one work in my life, unless of course it was someone else’s. I called the doc’s office to see if we could add a pregnancy test to the lab work – I wanted to make VERY CERTAIN that I was, in fact, preggars before spilling the beans to my hubby.

That night, with positive results in hand, I let our little yorkie, Max, break the news to Chris. I affixed a new tag to his collar, which I had inscribed with the words “You’re Going to be a Daddy” and outfitted the little furball in a t-shirt that read “Big Bro” across the back. When Chris came in and saw Max all decked out he nearly fainted. “No way! You’re kidding! Nu uh! What? Seriously?” were his words, all the while grinning from ear to ear. It was an awesome moment we’ll never forget.

Now, over two months into pregnancy, all is going great (except for those “friends” of mine, but as long as they don’t bother peanut, then I’m not going to let them bother me). I’m exhausted all of the time and have developed strong aversions to certain foods (don’t even mention seafood to me right now!), but other than that … I’m just truckin’ along.

Just seven more months to go. =) I can’t wait to meet this little peanut of mine …

much love~
tessa

Mustard Seeds

September of last year I had a cyst removed from my right ovary – it was a painful recovery as my doc opted to forgo the laser and went with the traditional incision instead. “Better chance of saving your ovary,” she’d said, which, since I’d been battling infertility, sounded like the best course of action to me. Two egg-producing o’s had to be better than one, right?

Two weeks ago I went in for a sonogram to see how everything was looking. The technician kept measuring and remeasuring one large spot and since everything on a sono looks the same to me, I assumed it was my uterus. It wasn’t. It was a cyst.

I have another “friend.”

I panicked of course (hello, thought we were done with this!) and the doctor reassured me that everything would be OK. Now, however, I’m having pain — intense, excruciating, leg-numbing pain. I called the doc. She said the cyst was probably trying to rupture, but it was nothing to worry about (apparently only patients get freaked out by words like “rupture,” lol). I’m having another sono in the morning to see what’s going on in there.

But here’s the real point of my ramblings, an e-mail I just received from my mom: “I hope you are not hurting as much now — I’ve been praying for you all night. God said all it takes is a mustard seed of faith. Well, if that is true then you may have about a billion children!!! =) You are going to be the most awesome/eclectic mommy there has ever been — stay true to yourself! Be safe in God's Amazing Grace.
Love,
Me”

How can I worry when my mom is planting so many mustard seeds on my behalf? And how can I be anxious when there are so many wonderful strangers — readers — who have been following my journey and sending me their hope, faith and encouragement?

Tonight I’m planting my own mustard seeds of faith — for my mom — for you — for all of us. May these seeds bloom and grow into the beautiful miracles they are destined to be.

much love~
tessa

Inspi(RED)

Last Friday, my favorite rockstar/activist, Bono, was on Oprah. He wasn’t there touting a new album, or tour, but instead introducing us Americans to his a new idea: PRODUCT(RED).

Already up and running in the UK and as of Friday, the US, companies such as Emporio Armani, Motorola, Apple, and Gap are teaming up with PRODUCT(RED) to produce “red” products (for those who don’t like the color red, not to worry, not everything is red). Why red? Red is the color associated with fighting AIDS, which is what this venture aims to do. According to Bono, it takes very little money to provide Antiretroviral (ARV) Drugs to those women and children in Africa afflicted with the disease. Bono, together with Bobby Shriver, co-founded PRODUCT(RED), in an effort to make contributing as easy as buying a t-shirt.

Why should we, living in Dallas, get involved? We have to set an example for our kids to teach them compassion, selflessness and to care for others, even if you don’t know them or aren’t affected directly by them. It doesn’t take much money, or time for that matter, just a want to help change the world just a little to make it a better place for your kids to live in.

To learn more, and see all the PRODUCT(RED) things available, check out www.joinred.com.

Lauren

Hey Columbus- The World Is Flat

I’ve recently had a book recommended to me by several people, through my work at DallasChild. I sensed there was a hype surrounding it, and that usually is enough to attract me. The World Is Flat by Thomas L. Friedman seems to be related to much of what I’m working on lately, so I also felt I should do my homework. So here’s an informal book review, keeping in mind that I’ve only read a chapter and a half. But, no worries, I’m hooked.

TWIF is about globalization, which Friedman says essentially comes down to the instant, reliable worldwide communication that we now depend on. By saying that the world is flat, he is saying that the global playing field has been leveled. (Not in the process of being leveled, but that this is how it is NOW.) Economically, politically and socially, we all have basically the same access to goods, services and most importantly information, thanks to the Internet, and it’s changing how companies and countries do business and politics.

How does this relate to my work? Well it affects they way our children will (should) be educated. After all, they’re future economists, politicians, and CEOs, right? The authors of The Mislabeled Child, Drs. Brock and Fernette Eide, with whom I am working for a story on gifted children, agree with Friedman. With barriers to communication down and access to information for all, it takes more than knowledge of facts to be successful. (Think: a class can all get perfect TAKS or SAT scores, but what will make each student stand out to college admissions? Future employers?)

It’s more important than ever to teach creativity and innovation instead of mere facts and rote memorization. This is a hard balance to strike when there are standardized tests involved. But rather than see it as a negative, I see it as more of a challenge to think and teach differently.

The book is an eye-opener, and it’s surprising how relevant it is—to anyone with kids and/or a career (everyone). Friedman writes about the present, but makes you look to the future. And it only took 40 pages to do it for me.

-Liz

Look Out...Here They Come!!!

This week we had our cover shoots for the November issues of DallasChild and FortWorthChild, and let me brag a little by saying these covers are going to be fabulous! These great snapshots submitted by their moms, caught our eyes and led us to choose them to grace our November covers. Ashton, our Dallas cover-boy performed like a pro, even though he was a little under-the-weather. You’ll see his personality (and precious attitude) radiate on the cover. Mason, our Fort Worth cover kid, was all smiles all the time, and one of the happiest (and friendliest) two-year-old boys I’ve ever encountered. His smile will light up your day, and did for all of us at the shoot. Both boys were so adorable, that Laura (our art director) and I wanted to take them home with us. Thanks to Ashton and his mom, Cheryl, and Mason and his family for being so easy and wonderful to work with! Also, a big thank you to Jennifer Weintraub, our fabulous photographer who did it again!

Lauren

A Date with Tootsies

Every mom deserves a little glamour in her life. That’s exactly what I got yesterday. Tootsies (a store that I admit I’ve never entered) contacted me recently saying they would like to provide clothing for any upcoming photo shoots. As luck would have it, I had a photo shoot scheduled with Sugar Photography for my editor’s note/holiday pics. So, I made an appointment to meet with Amy Bertrand, the dress consultant.

I was a tad nervous as I stepped into the famed bastion of Dallas fashion. Immediately, I spied a bar (a BAR?) and quickly ascertained that it must be for the wonderfully generous husbands who accompany their wives into this carefully edited boutique (that and it comes in handy for those trunk shows/parties they host – take the one with Nicole Miller scheduled this Thursday). The service was warm and gracious and I was quickly whisked upstairs to meet Amy, who is adorable (young and clearly NOT a mom). I’m quite sure she was looking at me thinking … let’s get some Spanx on that girl. Instead, she sends me to the fitting room with dresses one size too small (which I secretly hope I can fit into but end up needing to cop to my “real” size). Let me just say this: She is an expert. Everything she selected I absolutely loved and fit me perfectly (read: hid my flaws, accentuated what’s left of my assets). They are not styles/colors I would have chosen on my own, but that’s the point. You let the experts do the work at Tootsies (or, I’m sure any fine retailer).

I ended up with several dresses for the photo shoot (including the knockout Nicole Miller number pictured above). Tootsies also has a great selection of contemporary and casual clothes, not to mention a killer shoe department. I’m pretty sure I’m going to buy one of them (as long as my husband isn't reading this). Because, here’s the thing I’ve learned: Treat yourself to that one special dress. Wear it to every holiday party on your agenda - instead of alternating between a few different so-so frocks - and change out the accessories. There is no better feeling than reclaiming your (pre-baby) sex appeal and setting tongues a wag with whispers like “I can’t believe she looks like that and she’s had three kids.”

Thank you to Amy for reminding me of that.

Happy weekend (go Longhorns!). --shelley

Yes, Lauren, There Is A Santa Claus

But, before the presents and winter wonderlands, we have Halloween, and probably my favorite holiday.

What could be more fun as a child than dressing up as a fairy princess and gorging on candy? OK, I did this last year, plus Halloween-themed cocktails. I love it all, from sheet-covered ghosts to cheesy rubber bats hanging from ceilings. I even feel a tinge of sadness when I see pumpkins massacred in the streets by carousing teenagers. That was someone’s Jack-o-lantern!

The irony is, I don’t really like to be scared. For me, I can enjoy the fall season without the horror and gore. But, for those who appreciate being terrified, there is Hangman’s House of Horrors in Fort Worth. In its 18th scary season, Hangman’s prides itself on supporting local charities. Since it’s inception, it has donated $1.3 million. How scary could that be?

This year, the House of Horrors has three sideshows, which include scary clowns (is there any other kind?) a fun house and something called “Hillbillies Revenge.” But, keeping in mind that this fear is all for good causes, including the American Cancer Society and SafeHaven of Tarrant County, it could be a frighteningly good time. As for me, I’ll be watching for Hangman’s later this month on the Discovery Channel’s Top Haunted Attractions in America. At home. With all the lights on.

Also, congrats to Tania Foster and the Dallas Is Love organization for pulling off an incredible fundraiser yesterday at Potbelly’s in Garland. I met former Dallas Cowboy Tony Hill and NBA star Ira Terrell, as well as the wonderfully warm Foster family. I hope the event was a great success, and keep up the good work!

-Liz

'Tis the Season...Already

Christmas is my favorite holiday by far, and one of the things that jumpstarts my festive mood most is opening up Neiman Marcus’ Christmas Book for the first time. This morning, I got an upclose (and personal) look as Neiman Marcus unveiled it’s newest (and might I add one of the best) Christmas Books in its history. Walking around at the press preview, I was amazed not only at the companies who thought up these products (e.g., Pencil Skyscraper by the Art Guys), but even more amazed that Neimans located these fantastical concoctions. On the list of “fantasy” gifts to die for, are the Limited-Edition Pet Homes, GG Quad Four-Wheeler, the Backyard Water Park, and of course possibly the most coveted M6 BMW convertible, amongst many others. There’s always something for everyone in The Christmas Book, big, tall, short and small. They don’t call these the “fantasy gifts” for nothing!

Check out what made The Christmas Book this year online.

Cheers –
Lauren

A Positive Sign

One of us is preggers! Check out the back page essay of the October issue to find out who ...

Some Call Her Mayor, Three Call Her Mom

Earlier this week I had the pleasure of sitting down with Dallas city Mayor Laura Miller and let me just say, it was a wonderful experience. Aside from leading one of the largest metropolitan cities in the country, this former journalist-turned-politician is the devoted mom to three young children ages 11 to 16. During the course of our 45-minute conversation in a large conference room on the fifth floor of City Hall, Mayor Miller shared with me some truly interesting tidbits:

• she once kicked a school board leader out of his office during an interview (this was in her journalism days) so she could “pump” (she breastfed each of her three children for a year)
  
• she arranges her schedule so she can have dinner with her busy family every night (very few exceptions to this rule are tolerated)
  
• her children recently asked her if she would consider having another baby (aww!)

Want to know more? Look for the December issue of DallasChild, where I profile this fascinating mom and reveal the one local hot spot the Mayor absolutely can’t live without, plus the REAL reason she’s not running for re-election.

much love~
tessa

"Oh When the Saints..."

Whether you’re a sports nut or not, tonight’s Monday Night Football game on ESPN is one for the history books. It marks the first time the Louisiana Superdome is back in action after a “makeover" - a much needed one at that - post mayhem and devastation that took place in the Superdome following Katrina's wrath. Forget the game, I assure you that you won’t want to miss the pre-game show as U2 (my absolute favorite band) and Green Day team up to perform together live in the Superdome for a better reason than just football. They will be singing a cover of The Skids track, ‘The Saints Are Coming’ before the New Orleans Saints and the Atlanta Falcons take the field. Shortly after their performance, a download of the song will be available on Rhapsody.com. The entire proceeds will go to Music Rising, a campaign created by The Edge (U2's mastermind guitarist), which is dedicated to bringing music back to churches, schools and professionals in the Gulf Coast area. The Edge hopes that Music Rising will ensure “’that one of the Gulf Coast’s greatest assets, its music, rise again.’”

Watch them on ESPN tonight during the pre-game show 6 – 7:30pm CST. For more information, go to Music Rising.

cheers -
Lauren

It's Almost the Weekend...

The Man in the Yellow Hat and his endearing little friend George are coming to Dallas to celebrate the DVD release of the little monkey’s big screen debut.

Valley View Mall is hosting a day of Curious George activities starting at noon on Sunday (9/24), and the first 60 kids to register can audition for a voiceover role in a future animated production by Universal Studios.

Billed as a “Curiosity and Creativity Day,” the event promises face painting, coloring and promotions galore. Check it out, if you’re curious…

Valley View Mall 13331 Preston Road, Dallas

Also this weekend, Desperados restaurant, a Greenville Avenue Tex-Mex favorite, is having a 30th anniversary fiesta. A nominal donation gets you in the fiesta tent this Saturday, where the food will be free and free-flowing all night.

The event benefits the Love for Kids organization, which helps to serve some 264 local organizations that assist children in need.

Special guests will include former Dallas Cowboy Tony Hill (and friends). Hill will also be stopping by our friend Tania Foster’s fundraiser for Dallas Is Love on October 3. (See below)

Finally, the Desperados have planned a taco-eating contest featuring local media personalities. Dallas Child wasn’t asked to participate, and I think we’re all ok with that. But go see which of your favorite news anchors, reporters and columnists take the challenge and which ones are left with guacamole on their faces. Do it for the kids.

Desperados 4818 Greenville Ave, Dallas

Have a great weekend!
-Liz

Future Plans ...

This past month on Clomid was one of the most emotionally challenging periods in my nearly three-year-long fight with infertility.

Not only were my emotions on overload (sorry honey), but my mind was consumed with the business of making a baby:

• Take Clomid (and forewarn anyone in your path that you are, in fact, taking hormone-affecting meds and caution is advised)
  
• Pop prenatal vitamin that rivals the size of a human head
  
• Wear too-tight OV-Watch that makes wrist sweat
  
• Potty on ovulation-determination sticks (does anyone else have issues finding the stream the first time out? Lol!)
  
• On the “O” zone (ovulation) days, “do the laundry”
  
• Post-laundry, hitch hips toward the sky on a mammoth “pregnancy” pillow for 20-30 minutes
  
• Get blood work done to determine if you really did ovulate or if the stick l-i-e-d
  
• Wait … wait … and wait some more for the end of the cycle, which will either bring about joyous, beautiful, life-changing news or another month of “fun.”

Despite having to constantly be aware of what day it was in my cycle and what my body was (or wasn’t) doing, knowing my husby, Chris, and I were taking that “next step” toward becoming Mom and Dad made it all worthwhile. (And, come on, of course I have to admit there is some fun to be had during the whole baby making process, lol!) All this said and done, I’ve decided to detail my adventures in “wanna-be-mommyhood” in our October issue, on stands the first of next month. This is a story you won’t want to miss as I learned a huge life lesson in between my steps (and stumbles) as “infertile myrtle.”


much love~
tessa

p.s. The family photo above was shot for the October article by our PR/Marketing guru, Ashley, who is also a fantabulous photographer. Kudos Ash for your awesome talent and for actually getting Maxie to look your direction! =)

Thanks to our CoverKid Contestants

Saturday's event was a hit! We met so many adorable children and great families. I worked as a photographer with Tessa as my "assistant." OK, actually I was supposed to be the assistant, but after about five minutes we switched because Tessa is much better at handling the paperwork and details, while I like to be the creative type. At least we know that about each other and work well as a team! We had so much fun with the kids and so many of them sprang to life in front of the camera - there will be plenty of fresh faces to choose from for our covers next year. We'd love to hear what you thought of the event ... e-mail us. --shelley

Could Your Child Be Our Next Cover Kid?

Tomorrow, Saturday September 16, is our annual DallasChild Cover Search and it’s going to be a blast! We’re taking over the castle at Kids Dental (3001 N. Dallas Parkway, Plano on the West side of the Tollway) in hopes of finding fresh new faces to grace the covers of our 2007 magazines.

Interested?

Kids ages 1-12 (accompanied by mom or dad) are welcome to stop by between 9am-3pm; registration is $35. A DallasChild photographer will snap 3 pictures of your child and the best shot will be printed as a mock magazine “cover” as a souvenir for you to take home.

But it’s not all about the photo shoot … this is going to be a fun-filled day complete with a bounce house, games, an ambulance and helicopter the kids can check out and much, much more.

Come on by, we’ll be looking for ya’!

much love~
tessa

Holiday Pic Outfit Inspiration

I'm sure I'm not the only mom who is already obsessing over what my little angels are going to wear for their holiday photo (which will take place next month with the lovely and talented Ms. Jennifer - our cover photog extraordinaire). I am envisioning bright colors and breezy casual. So, when I received a sample from Happy Green Bee, I went ga ga over the sumptuous bands of burnt orange, bricky red and earthy green. The garments are super soft and made of organic cotton too! One of these outfits is a top contender for my baby (if I can match the other boys with equally gorgeous hues). Send me your ideas, moms! --shelley

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Little Darlings

I must tell everyone how excited I am about our upcoming cover girls, Iris (DallasChild) and Briauna (FortWorthChild). Both are spunky 4-year-olds with more enthusiasm and charisma than we could have ever hoped for! They were such fabulous first-time models, you would have thought they came straight from America’s Next Top Model. Here are a few of the outtakes of the girls having fun at the shoot yesterday.
I found our girls’ precious Sister Sam outfits at KidBiz at Preston Center, in Dallas – a store that has been around so long that I remember shopping there with my mom and grandmother as a young girl myself. If you haven’t stopped in lately, I would suggest doing so.
Also, a huge thanks goes to our photographer Jennifer Weintraub of Sugar Photography. She really knows how to work kids (experience gained from being a mom of two little ones) to get the absolute best pictures, especially from our Iris and Briauna. Check out The Sweet Life to see what she has to say about our shoot. I can’t wait for yall to see our latest crop of beautiful darlings on stands Oct. 1!

-Lauren

VOTE NOW!

It’s time once again to cast your vote for the very best family-friendly haunts around town in our annual Best for Families (visit www.dallaschild.com or www.fortworthchild.com to vote). To keep things interesting, we’ve added some great new categories like Mom & Dad (What’s the best date night hot spot that you and your hubby love to frequent?) and Weekends (What’s the absolute greatest One-Stop Shop to Get all your “To-Do’s” Done?).

Come on moms, you know you have secret spots that you’re just dying to bring into the limelight — now’s your chance. (Plus, living in my non-mommy bubble right now, I want/need to know who’s got the best baby gear, where to meet other moms, etc. just in case that “little stick” says “PREGNANT!” in a few days … my fingers and toes are crossed!).

Oh, and one last thing … vote in all of our craveworthy categories and you’ll be entered to win a craveworthy $200 gift certificate from one of our fabulous advertisers — now that’s something that should get your fingers to typing!

Have fun!

much love~
tessa

p.s. Thanks to Shelley Anne Marie for the shout out ... always good to know you're "luved." =)

Tessa Anne Marie!

No, that's not her "real" middle name. But we both insert "Anne Marie" after each other's first names when we want to make a point (kind of like when your mom called you by your first and middle names when you got into trouble as a kid). Tessa took off on "vacation," mumbling something about needing a "break." Whatever. Here I am struggling to keep things organized and running smoothly (and trying hard to stay motivated - she's the ultimate whip cracker) and just when I was devising a plan to put a "ban" on any future little getaway ideas of hers, I open my desk drawer and find a GIANT chocolate bar with a little note from her. Not only is she the machine that powers our editorial department, she's thoughtful too (sort of ... she knows I'm on a diet!!!). Here's to looking forward to her return tomorrow; I guess I better be nice to her ( : -- shelley

Is it Hot in Here? Or is it Just Mom?

Personally, I thought producers were about to run out of ideas for reality TV shows, but apparently, I was wrong.

A new show is in the works, and casting directors will be in Dallas on Saturday, September 16 to hold auditions for the Hottest Mom in America.

So what is the show looking for in a mom?

"Our Casting Directors are looking for the Hottest Moms in Dallas, with style,
confidence, and sexuality beyond the carpool!" says the show’s press release.

So, moms, come by Reunion Arena a week from Saturday at 8 am and dazzle the casting directors with your stunning personality.

No word yet on what the show will actually require of its contestants, but don’t worry, we’ll keep you posted.

And while you’re in the mood, why not bring the kids by the Dallas Child cover search the same day? We promise…no reality TV stunts required.

-Liz

Dallas Is Love

While we’re bragging about people, I want to introduce 18-year-old Tania Foster. I interviewed Tania for our October North Texas Teens, and I’m completely in awe. In my excitement, I don’t want to give her story away too soon, but I did want to share what won’t make it in the magazine.

Tania started a web site Dallas Is Love.org to show love to American troops in South Korea. Her grandfather was a lieutenant colonel and her grandmother is Korean, hence her connection to the country. Through Dallas Is Love, you can donate money which will be converted to gift certificates through the Army and Air Force Exchange Service that the servicemen and women can use anywhere in the world.

After several visits to South Korea to visit her mother’s family and military personnel, Tania decided to amp up her campaign to raise a quarter of a million dollars to show the troops that they are appreciated. Her philosophy that all troops need support, but that they're not concentrated in one small area of the world, as we often assume, is refreshing.

The Fosters also met and befriended Sgt. Allen Cottone while in South Korea. Cottone will be coming home just in time for Christmas, and has not seen his wife in two and a half years (they’ve been married for three).

He asked if he could pay the Fosters a visit while he is on leave, and the generous family said they would be happy to have him. Meanwhile Tania has arranged for Dallas Mavericks tickets and is working on securing a room at the W Hotel, donations from local restaurants, etc. to make sure Sgt. Cottone and his wife have an amazing time in Dallas. After all, who knows where the army could take him next.

Tania has also organized an event at Potbelly’s in Garland (Firewheel Mall) on October 3. She has arranged for KISS FM and possibly Miss Dallas or Miss Texas USA to be there to drum up support. I know I will be there.

Since “Dallas Is Love,” I wanted you all to know about this incredible young woman.

-Liz

YES!

I am officially in the “O” zone (read: this AM’s “stick” said I’m ovulating). I couldn’t be more excited … well, if the “stick” says I’m preggars next month then of course this excitement will be eclipsed by impending mommyhood, but for now, after surviving my first roller-coaster cycle of Clomid (and almost three years of not ovulating), this is, in a word, thrilling! YEE-HA!

Other exciting news? I am constantly and consistently in touch with local moms who are absolutely amazing and have great things to share with the magazine and I am so thankful to have the opportunity to get this inside look at motherhood. Take for instance Lindsay Kwait, a young woman I met through a mutual friend who traded in her interior-design dreams to be a stay-at-home mommy to her 6-month-old son, Travis. She’s one of those totally plugged in people that we all aspire to be: she blogs constantly and what she posts is awesome. I check in periodically and am always impressed with what she shares – like the video she posted of Travis’ first solid-cereal experience – she didn’t want her mom (who lives out of town) to miss seeing it (aww, too sweet). Be sure to grab the Fall/Winter issue of babydallas out next month to see what Lindsay has to say about all the things she’s wish she’d known pre-baby.

And then there’s Tiffany Cotney, a breast-cancer survivor I’m profiling in our October “Mom Next Door” department. She is fabulous! I spoke with her for over an hour today about her experiences in beating breast cancer and she is inspiring. She has twin 2 year olds (precious!) and we talked about how the past year (she was diagnosed in Aug., 2005) impacted her as a parent and as a woman. You just have to read her story – her spirit, her upbeat (read: bubbly and full of laughter) personality and zest for life is contagious.

My fingers are crossed that I’ll soon be able to join the ranks of these fabulous moms.

much love~
tessa

P.S. The sign I'm holding in the photo says "MOMS ROCK!"

The Case for a European "Holiday"

If you can’t tell already through my other posts and bio, I am a HUGE advocate of spending time abroad – especially at a young age. The benefits are overwhelming, and if you spend enough time mingling with the locals, you’ll not only get a true picture of Americans from the “outside world,” but see that the “American way” is not always the only way. For this reason, I believe that it’s crucial for teens and college-aged students to spend time abroad; the lessons they learn, and the perspectives they’ll gain are invaluable and will help shape their lives. They did for me.
I just finished working on an article about just that (advocating teen trips to Europe) for the October issue of NorthTexasTeens. In it, I let you in on the personal experiences I’ve gone through, and the knowledge and lessons I took back with me crossing back over the pond.
If your teen is asking for a trip abroad, or even thinking about it, I hope that after reading this article, you give them the green light – I promise that it is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give them.
-Lauren

PS - the photo is of me (denim jacket, far left), some of my classmates and a Scottish bagpipe player on the Millenium Bridge in London

Calling All Ballerinas:

Tiny dancers ages 10-14 have just less than a month to get warmed up for auditions for The Radio City Christmas Spectacular starring The Rockettes.

Auditions will be held Sunday, October 1 in the Dallas Opera Rehearsal Hall for the part of Clara in "The Nutcracker" segment of the show. A limited number of parts will go to seasoned, young en pointe dancers, and the chosen few will perform in some of the 40 shows during the production's Dallas run.

Email for more information and registration searchforclara@yahoo.com

The Radio City Christmas Spectacular is presented by the Dallas Summer Musicals

-Liz

Fall's Forecast...

Summer heat is still “blessing” us with its presence, but as far as the beauty industry is concerned…it’s fall! Neiman Marcus Willow Bend in Plano is hosting their Backstage Beauty Reception to kick off the season’s newest additions this Thursday night from 6 – 8 pm on the first floor in Cosmetics. Get all the inside info on fall’s big beauty must-haves and secrets, along with the fabulous complimentary red tote with a cosmetic or fragrance purchase of $85+. See you there!

- Lauren

Going to Nashville, Baby!

We launched this blog one month ago and we've already been invited to speak about blogging as an innovative way to reach our readers at the 2007 Parenting Publications of America conference in Nashville. Love it! Maybe we'll catch a glimpse of that hunky Bachelor dude Travis while we're there. --shelley

Unexpected Reminders

It’s day four of my five-day cycle of Clomid and man am I feeling the effects: I rocket back and forth between upbeat and perky to sad and withdrawn to quick tempered and tacky, all the while being completely exhausted — but I know it’ll all be worth it in the end! I did get a nice little distraction from the emotional rollercoaster yesterday afternoon, though, along with an unexpected reminder of what I’m working so hard for.

For the November issue I’ll be profiling Frisco’s own Leisa Hart — of the Buns of Steel videos fame. She’ll be dishing all about what life is like raising three little ones and being a fitness icon to millions of women (especially moms). And while Leisa served as a fantastic interview (the piece is a must read) it was more the background noise of our phone interview that really got me. While we chatted, Leisa was busy feeding her 6-month-old little girl, Mary Frances, and every once in awhile I could hear the baby cooing and giggling in the background. The little snippits I could hear were the sweetest sounds I’d heard all day — only from the mouths of babes.

Thanks to Leisa and Mary Frances for bringing me out of my Clomid funk and for reminding me what it is I’m fighting for.

much love ~
tessa

September Issue!

The magazines have hit the newsstand early. One of my mommy friends, Lauren, commented on how "different" and "fresh" this issue looks. I have to say that it is my favorite ... I can't stop looking at it. And, typically in this biz, once the magazine is published the editors are SO done with it. Mostly because we are in the trenches of another issue already. Take October, for instance. We're working on two must-read stories about the state of foster parenting and the psychological issues behind childhood obesity. Each issue we push ourselves to do even better. That's the “Madonna factor” of magazines; you can reinvent yourself every month. --shelley

Hobnobbin’ with Pat & Vanna

While our story on the parenting perspectives, secret tidbits and notable quotables of Pat Sajak and Vanna White (they were in town this past weekend filming three weeks worth of shows) won’t be ready for you to read until you pick up our October issue, I thought I’d share the behind-the-scenes, all-access pass to the “Wheel” story that’ll never see print.

Yesterday our art director Laura (aka, the “New Vanna” — more on that in a bit) and I arrived at NOKIA theater ready to hobnob, chit chat and rub elbows with the reigning King and Queen of game-show society. After checking in and encircling our necks with our official “Wheel of Fortune” press passes, we were escorted upstairs — by security (you’d think we were there to meet the president) — to the press club (a smallish room dotted with a handful of round tables, a feast of goodies ready for the noshing and a slew of publicity people milling about). Since this was day three of a three-day shoot, the other media outlets were slim, which suited me just fine — it meant I wouldn’t have to battle it out with other reporters to get Team P/V to answer my Q’s.

Hoping to stave off a tension headache I’d felt forming since crawling out of bed, I started downing Diet Pepsi like a champ, meaning 10 minutes later I needed to visit the little girl’s room. When I asked where the nearest facilities were, I was shocked (to say the least) when I discovered I wouldn’t be “going” alone.

“Oh, I’ll escort you,” I was told by some official-looking, headset-wearing woman. “Huh? Seriously?,” I asked.

“Yes ma’am, all members of the press have to be escorted throughout the building — at all times — even to the bathroom,” headset said.

“Wow. Haven’t had a bathroom buddy since kindergarten, but OK,” I said trying to break the tension I had about being “taken potty” by some random stranger.

Headset wasn’t impressed. “I’ll wait outside the door for you and will walk you back when you’re finished.”

Thank goodness she didn’t have to actually hear me flush, too — I probably would’ve suffered from shy bladder syndrome.

After being escorted back to my seat, Laura and I had about an hour to hang out before Pat and Van were ready to talk. During the downtime another headset, a male one this time, walked by and looked at Laura, “Wow, are you auditioning to be the new Vanna?,” he asked her. “Huh? Um, huh?” she stammered. We were both caught off guard and at a total loss for words … but we’re pretty sure he was paying her a great compliment because later not only did a photog from the Dallas Morning News ask me if Laura was our stylist because she looked so great, but even Vanna White herself told Laura during the interview that she loved her hair!!! (note to all: if Laura is ever the next tile turner on Wheel, you can say you heard it hear first, lol!)

When it was time to chat with Pat, I was surprised at his entrance. He just kind of walked on in and sat down beside me. No big “Ta Dah!” No nervous headsets buzzing about giving us a countdown or telling us to keep our distance (we can’t potty or walk by ourselves, but we can chit chat with the talent with no handholding — cool.)

This was the same when Vanna came in, too (she showed up in lounge-about clothes, while Pat was already suited up for the show). I’m not sure what I was expecting, having grown-up watching these two on TV (something I always shared with my grandparents) I guess I expected them to be larger than life — but they weren’t. They were just cool, down-to-earth real people, real parents. Each of them was equally engaging — quick with great, witty responses when needed and honest and forthcoming when the rare, more serious question called for it.

They were fun and it made for a great interview, a great experience. When the headsets did start buzzing about, telling us it was time to wrap up, both Pat and Vanna took a moment to take pics and scribble their monikers on a souvenir shirt for Laura’s 10-year-old daughter, Sabrina, who is a devoted Wheel watcher.

After they left, we were ushered into the theater (which was teaming with some 20,000 screaming North Texans!) for the first taping of Family Week (will air Nov. 13). We were told when to clap, when to “ooh,” when to “ahh,” when to scream, when to be silent. Laura and I just kind of sat back, took it all in and watched as the “regular” Pat and Van again looked larger than life.

Then headset escorted us to the exit. What a lovely way to spend a Sunday afternoon.

much love~
tessa

If you want to look like Lauren ...

by shelley

OK, so I'm the "oldest" editor on staff. By far. Working around these gorgeous, young 20-somethings ... well, I could be depressed. Or, I could just steal their secrets! I asked Lauren (pictured right), who looks flawless every day (damn her), to "e-mail" me her beauty tricks. Of course, I'm going to share them with all of you other, ahem, 30-something+ Mommies. I'm sure Lauren won't mind ( :

Lauren’s Make-Up Must Haves

1. Laura Mercier Stardust Powder, $34
2. Laura Mercier Eye Basics in Wheat, $22
3. Laura Mercier Eye Liner in Black Ebony, $20
4. Laura Mercier Lip Pencil in Terra Cotta, $18
5. CHANEL Ombre D’Eau Fluiod Iridescent Eyeshadow in Source, $30
6. Rimmel London Volume Lash in Extreme Black, $XX (need to find out price)
7. Yves Saint Laurent Beaute Touche Brillance lip gloss in Spark Garnet, $27.50
8. NARS Sheer Blush in Outlaw, $25

I would be off to the make-up counter right now (my "lunch" break), but we're going to press (three magazines this week!). Sigh. I guess I'll have to wait until tomorrow when I am in California on my first girl's getaway since my third child was born last fall. Try not to miss me girls!

Passing Notes in Class

A few things happening in the near future that we’d like to pass along…

The 7th Annual Family Fiesta Health Fair happens Saturday, September 9th at Reverchon Park in Dallas. This is a free event offering dental, health and vision screenings, as well as immunizations to children.

Also in health care, Parkland Health & Hospital Systems will provide free mammogram screenings this Saturday, August 26th at the Concord Missionary Baptist Church. Funding is provided by the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation. (It’s almost Race for the Cure time, too…)

These events are no-cost, easy, and happening soon, so take note if you or someone you know could benefit.

Build-A-Bear Workshop at Stonebriar Centre is holding an open casting for boys and girls ages 5-12 this Saturday, August 26th. The first 100 kids will get to create an audition tape for a possible role in the upcoming movie Alice.

For all little ones (and their handlers) with stars in their eyes, this could be a great opportunity, or at least some fun. Jimmy’s Mom, this is for you…

Upcoming in October…how far would you go to make your child famous?

Connor’s Customized Creation

Being in the parenting-magazine biz, we receive tons (and I mean TONZ) of info on fabulous (and sometimes, not-so fabulous) products for families, kids, moms and dads. And, I have to admit, receiving the inside scoop on all of the great new gear out there is by far one of my favorite perks of the job.

Not too long ago I received a press release about an online e-tailer dubbed BabyFable, which offers customized art for your little bundle’s nursery. Though, I’m not a mommy, (yet … countdown to Clomid: 6 days) I fell in love with this product. There are five themed watercolor prints to choose from (the Baby’s Zoo Debut is my personal fav) that can be personalized with Baby’s name, birthday, weight, length, time of birth, mom and dad’s monikers and city of birth. You can order with or without a frame or purchase a certificate to gift that soon-to-be mommy in your life.

While a lot of products that come across my desk seem wonderful, I always have to try them out in person first, before I give them my stamp of approval (remember: I’m prepping for momhood, so I’m always looking for things I’d love to have when I finally get there).

I ordered the Baby’s Zoo Debut Nighttime to give to my friend Lindsay. She’d decorated her son’s nursery in a jungle theme and I thought the zoo pic would be the perfect piece to add. I chose the frame that matched Connor’s crib, plunked in the details and hit order. Within about two weeks the art arrived and before I even saw the item, I was already blown away by the company — the care they take packaging their product to ensure it arrives safe and secure is awesome. (I think it took me 10 minutes and a sharp pair of scissors just to plow through all the layers of packing material.)

The picture was just as I thought it would be — awesome. But the true test? What the “real” mom thought.

“I like the whimsical theme and the artwork is beautifully detailed. I love the way the artist incorporates the details of the baby’s arrival — it’s just so creative. And the piece went perfectly in Connor’s nursery.” — Lindsay, Lewisville mom of 8-month-old Connor

Yay! Success! I’m thinking like a mom already (well, in the décor department, anyway. Lol!).

Happy shopping.

much love~
tessa

"Maxed" Out

I have had credit cards on the brain for several weeks now, but thankfully, not my own.

Having just wrapped up a story for DallasChild’s October issue, I’ve become aware of a scary new phenomenon—Identity theft of children.

Identity theft, in general, scares me to the point of near-paranoia for two reasons:

1.) I now know how easy it is for a thief to accomplish (Tessa and I plotted the perfect crime one afternoon, but no laws were broken)
2.) I can’t think of anything that would make me feel more powerless

You’re thinking “But kids don’t have credit cards; what are you talking about?” I know. Kids’ credit histories are clean, and that’s exactly the point….as you will read in October.

Slightly less scary, I’ve also just finished a story for our forthcoming North Texas Teens issue about teenagers and credit cards. How young is too young, what should limits be, etc. Now, I could have done some serious damage as a teen, but I probably would have known my limits, too. Or my mother’s wrath. The good thing about paying cash when you’re a 17-year-old with a taste for Prada—no incriminating paper trail.

My father recently admitted that he feels may have done me a disservice by not teaching me more about money and finances as I was growing up. Although I disagree, I appreciated the confession, and I think it came through in my story. Having the funds to pay the bills is one thing, but understanding the language of finance is quite another. There’s a lot kids will never know if someone doesn’t tell them.

Also upcoming this fall, but thoroughly un-financial, today I had an intriguing interview with an author who claims that children can be potty-trained in just one day. She has scores of devotees to back her up, but the jury is still out in our office. Having never trained anything in my life, I’d like to direct that question to you, our readers. Let me know if you’ve potty trained in under 24 hours…using a doll…or a party…anything.
-Liz

“Daddy” Test Run

With 100 degree days that make us glisten (my dad always said men sweat, ladies glisten) within seconds of stepping outside, it’s hard to imagine that fall will be upon us soon (not that it’ll change the temperatures much, well, for awhile anyway). And with the new season, brings our second issue of babydallas magazine – the fall/winter issue. Though we only print this sister publication twice a year, I have to admit, it’s by far my favorite.

As a wanna’ be mommy, researching/interviewing/writing about all of the news, trends and must-know info relating to the preggars-through-baby’s-first-year period makes my heart go pitter pat … it’s kind of like cramming for life’s biggest exam. In the nearly two years that I’ve been with Lauren Publications, I’ve learned all about the benefits of breastfeeding, what DHA is and why new moms need it, the truth behind episiotomies, how babies impact the romantic aspect of marriage and much, much, much — way much — more. And this issue will be no different, though I won’t reveal our secrets … well, just yet anyway.

Since I feel I’ve been prepping for momdom since I started at the magazine, this past weekend I thought it only fair that my husby, Chris, get in some quality crunch time, as well (we are, after all, starting Clomid next month and I’m trying to stay positive that I’ll soon be blogging about baby bumps).

At the crack of dawn Saturday morning (OK, it was 8:14am, but it seemed to be the crack of dawn) I received the following text message from my dear friend Lindsay: If U R N town & have nuthn going on please come c us. Boy (this would be her 7-month-old son Connor) has been sick and Will (this would be her husby) is gone today & im on my own w/ the babe for the 4th day n a row. Would luv some company.

Girl time, plus quality bonding opportunity with baby? I was so there! Linz was in serious need of grown-up chit chat (and some make-up, but hey, don’t tell her I said so, lol!), so we spent the day catching up (apparently, I was in need of some chit chat myself). By the end of the afternoon I was kicking both mom and dad out of the house so they could mix and mingle with the rest of the world that knows nothing of binkys or Baby Einstein videos.

Things were looking good, until about 5 minutes into babysitting when Connor began to bawl … and bawl … and bawl … and BAWL. He’d been battling some baby illness (roseola I think?) and he was so congested it just broke my heart. So, like any good, never-been-a-mom type of chick, I called for reinforcements — the husby. We loaded the baby into his carseat and headed out for a drive … within 5 minutes he was out, that is of course, until I tried to UNload him.

Chris plucked the crying tot from my arms, grabbed the bottle Linz had made and curled up on the couch with both. Sitting in this burly, bald man’s arms, the baby was suddenly at ease … the tears stopped … peace was restored.

And I was in shock.

Here was my husband, this goateed, tattooed, teddy bear of a man all sunburned and swathed in his swim trunks (I pulled him away from a day of fun in the sun with his fam) completely wrapped around the finger of this itty, bitty baby. Connor stuck his hands in Chris’ mouth, yanked on his earlobes, spit up all over his shirt — and my husband was lovin’ every minute of it.

It was awesome.

When Connor started rubbing his eyes, Chris went to put him in his swing/sleeper thing while I went to stash the empty bottle in the kitchen. By the time I got back, I was greeted with precious sights and sounds: two bald boys snoring happily together.

I always thought my husband would make an incredible dad, but after Saturday night, I know he will.

So, for now, while we wait for the Clomid to kick in, I’ll keep boning up on mother/baby basics that we feature in the magazine and Chris, well, he can just keep doin’ whatever it is that he does to soothe the souls of cry babies. (Thanks to Linz and Will for letting us get in some “practice”.)

Great test run “dad.”

much love~
tessa

Why We're So Quiet

Wondering what happened to us? We're like little beavers at our desks pounding away at the keyboard (just not on the blog - lol). Must be the week before press! We are busy putting the final editing touches on stories and working closely with the lovely and talented Laura Oertling (our art director and New Orleans' transplant) on the layout of the magazine. I'm super excited about this issue ... we just finished editing an enlightening piece on the new gender gap in the classroom, plus a moving feature on "Children of the Storm" — Katrina evacuees one year later. We have a surprise too - one of our sections is being redesigned at this very moment to make it even more reader-friendly ... can't wait to hear your feedback. So all the copy is in Laura's hands (except the Editor's Note, of course ... I'm always late!). I guess we can get back to blogging now … I mean working on October’s issue. Cheers. --shelley

Forever Alma

I know I should probably write about the article I’m working on, or what great new products I’m loving right now, and I will, I’ll get to those things, in another entry, at another time, but tonight I need to write about something else, about how fast time flies, even when it seems you’re standing still.

After much coercing on my part (and whining, begging and pleading on my husband’s), it was decided that we’d make tonight a cuddle-up-on-the-couch-and-watch-a-chick-flick kind of Friday night. I knew what I was getting myself into when I popped in The Notebook. (I’ve seen it a zillion times, though, to my credit, it has been months since I last watched it.) But I did it anyway. I thought I’d be OK.

I was wrong.

If you’re not familiar with the title, here’s the general idea: it’s a beautiful story about the romance of two young teens (each other’s first loves) who, by society’s standards, should never be together, but according to the crazy language of love, should never be apart. While the romance and the drama of “Will they or won’t they?” is enough to draw in even the harshest of cynics, it’s the part of the movie that captures what dementia looks like through the eyes of a loved one that truly captivates my soul.

My grandmother, Alma, is battling dementia and it breaks my heart. When I was little I would go and stay for weeks at a time with her and my grandpa Raymond. I loved being with them, they made even the littlest things seem so incredibly special. Grandpa would go to work, leaving us “girls” to go on long walks around the neighborhood, get ice cream cones at Dairy Queen where everyone always knew her name, and crafts, oh the crafting we would do together. I didn’t know then how special those memories would be to me now and I cling to them — I cling to them with enough strength for the both of us because I know I’m now the only one who remembers.

I think I could handle cancer or heart disease or some other equally difficult condition, but watching my Grandma, seeing the true essence of her soul that I have loved for so long, be replaced by someone I don’t even know, someone who barely knows me, wreaks havoc on my heart. When I see her or talk to her, I feel like that little girl again who so desperately wants to sit at her Grandma’s kitchen table and glue together sequins and popsicle sticks.

I do not feel old enough, mature enough to handle this, perhaps no one does. I wonder when I became this grown woman, this adult with her own life and her own family whose Grandma is no longer the vivacious spirit of her childhood. Where has the time gone? And how do I make it stop?

After watching the movie, I called my mom and told her I wanted to write Grandma (her mom) a letter, but I didn’t know what to say, I was/am afraid she won’t know who I am. “Write what’s in your heart,” she said. “You need to do it. For you. She may not understand, but she’ll hand your letter to Grandpa and he’ll explain it so that she does. Be sure to send a picture so she can see you.”

So I did. And I have vowed to keep writing. Grandma has always loved getting letters — the old-fashioned kind that seems a lost art in today’s e-mail and IM world. I will write to my Grandma until I have no words left and then I will write until I find new ones. She may not be as concerned with what I write, but more with the fact that I wrote, and that is enough. I can’t make time stop, each year it only seems to quicken its step, but at least for the moment I can document the here and now and share it, in some small way, with the Grandma I hold so dearly in my heart.

Your letter’s in the mail.

much love~
tessa

Fresh Faces

Just back from our September shoot, I have to report that it went pretty well. Conflicting schedules made it a bit of a challenge this month (with school starting, our fabulous photographer heading off to Padre for a week, and the deadline-filled existence of both myself and our art director, Laura) to get everyone at one place at one time – but as always, we made it work.

With minimal time to prepare, I am quite pleased with our results. Just to let you in on some inside info… you’d never guess that these pictures were taken in our photographer’s driveway with the backdrop and lights set up just outside her garage! Like Jennifer said though, one of the great Hollywood photographers has a set up just like hers – also in the comfort of his own garage (apparently Billy Bob Thorton, one of his celeb subjects, didn’t mind having his picture taken in the make-shift studio either, just like our cover kids).

It was all boys today at the shoot in the spirit of our main September feature about boys getting the short end of the education stick. Despite the blistering sun beating down on our backs and causing beads of sweat to appear on our foreheads, the boys (Kyle and Silas) were troopers and posed like pros for the camera. Both boys are hoping to win over girls after they see these stylin’ studs on the September covers (from what I hear from Silas’ mom, he apparently already has an entourage of four girls at school that follow his every move – that will probably multiply after his female classmates get a look at this cover!) Both boys did a fabulous job, and I have to thank them for that!

Look for the September issue to find out more about these boys, and the “lost boys” of the education system – you won’t want to miss this one!

--Lauren

Fort Worth and Freedom Writers

I had the pleasure of attending the Fort Worth ISD’s Teacher Convocation this morning, and it was something of a field trip. After a tense morning drive, complete with bad directions and highways I’ve never heard of (this Dallas girl needs a very good reason to stray west of I35), I made it to the Wilkerson-Greines Athletic Center and found nothing short of a coliseum full of teachers.

Grouped in the stands by schools, it was a grown-up pep rally for some 5,000 educators. After some inspiration from Superintendent Melody Johnson, the main event featured keynote speaker Erin Gruwell. Haven’t heard of Erin yet? You will soon enough. Paramount Pictures has adapted Ms. Gruwell’s experiences as a teacher to some seriously at-risk high schoolers scheduled to hit theaters January 2007.

Moved by the catastrophe she witnessed in Los Angeles following the Rodney King verdict, Gruwell gave up plans for law school for secondary education, only to be handed 150 of Long Beach’s most “un-teachable” youth. Her students attended class with their parole officers, but she credits many of them as having “PhDs of the streets.”

Not to ruin any Hollywood endings, but Gruwell proved a most engaging speaker, and there were few dry eyes in the house. On a lighter note, she is the founder of the Erin Gruwell Education Project, and her students’ writings were first published in a book, The Freedom Writers Diary.

So, I’m inspired. I’ll be first in line at the movie theater, come January. I’m doing my best to schedule an interview with her. And I did make it back to Dallas in one piece.

Thanks, Erin! And thanks, Fort Worth teachers! -Liz

Fall's Fabulous Fete

At lunch today with a local fashion exec, I was informed of a fabulous party that I MUST attend next Thursday. Hearing this good news, I knew that I had to pass on this hot tip to you. New York Knights & Nighties is the fall event of the season for Neiman Marcus Willow Bend. On August 17 from 7 to 10pm, the city’s finest “knights” and women dressed to the nines in their “nighties” will be in attendance of a truly spectacular night (poker for the men, and a pajama party for the ladies) benefiting The Assistance Center of Collin County. Tickets are $100 per person, or $150 for couples (call 972.424.8501 for more info). Think of it as the last hoorah for summer, and the start of a fabulous fall season to come! Hope to see you there…. --Lauren

Inspiration for the Day

A friend and fellow mommy just sent me this quote: "Success is loving life and daring to live it." -- Maya Angelou. It's going on our bulletin board. Thanks, Allana! --shelley

For Kindergarten Mommies Only

I just received this beautiful story from a mommy who lovingly recounted her experience as she ushered her son to his first day of kindergarten in Allen yesterday. She is allowing me to share it on our blog. I love our readers. You inspire me everyday. Thank you, Michelle Marks! --shelley

I awoke at 6:30 this morning and made coffee. My son ... my baby ... my little man was still sleeping. As was my husband. I was thinking what an ungodly hour to wake up.

I went into my son's room and pulled the blanket off of his angelic head. He opened his eyes and I said, "Good morning. It's time to wake up and get ready for your first Big Day!" He said, "I'm still tired. I wanna wake up at 8." After I kissed him all over his face, he finally woke up. He climbed onto my lap and I hugged him. He still likes snuggles. Still.

He sat on the couch next to Daddy and watched some cartoons. A little while later, he sat down for breakfast. He didn't want eggs and waffles. He wanted cereal and toast. I prepared his breakfast and he ate it all up.

He got dressed in his new shirt. He didn't want the new shorts on so we chose another pair. Navy dress shorts with a light blue striped shirt. I looked at him and my breath was taken away. He looked so handsome and so GROWN UP. Wow.

I made his lunch — a turkey and bologna sandwich to go along with chips, cookies, Froot By The Foot and a banana, two bottles of water and Sunkist orange "juice."

I helped him put his new Spiderman shoes on. Then we were off. As we were walking, I felt a knot in my stomach. 'Is this really happening? Is it really time to go already?'

We arrived at the school to confusion. We went to his classroom but were told to go to the gym. The gym was full of children of many ages. I asked where my son should sit and we went to the kindergarten section. There he sat, looking so small. He looked nervous.

His class was the last line to leave the gym. He wanted to walk with us but we told him to stay with his class. He was very hesitant but he marched on. We arrived at his classroom and he sat down at a table. He just looked around. He was looking for his friend who lives next door. She was late. The teacher then told the kids to put their backpacks and other items into a cubby. My son picked out a cubby and put his lunch box in it. He then stood in line to get a name tag that hangs from the neck on a string. He sat down again and continued to look around the room at all the other children.

His friend arrived and he called her name but she sat at another table. With a couple kisses and lots of hugs, his dad and I left. My eyes were filled with tears. Another parent asked me if I was crying too and I replied that I was. She asked me which one was mine, so I pointed my son out to her and she pointed her daughter out to me. I hugged her. It was a little comfort knowing I wasn't alone in feeling sad.

I bawled all the was home. Sobbing and crying. I am still crying. I miss him already. So now I am writing this because I wanted to write while it was still fresh. The silence in my home is deafening. My heart is aching for my little boy. I miss him. But at 9:45 a.m., I will look out through my back window and see him playing at recess. He is so close yet he feels like he is so far away from me.

Someday, he will read this after I print it out and put it in his special school box we bought. My son, I love you so much! I hope you flourish and learn and grow to be a wonderful person. Learn a lot and be good!!!

Are You a Wheel Watcher?

The DallasChild/FortWorthChild offices are a hotbed for celebrity interviews right now! Shelley’s got Brett Paesel (see her blog entry “Scored an interview with…” for the scoop), our editorial intern, Megan Weadock, just chatted with Andie MacDowell about what it’s like being a mom AND a feathered friend in the new kid flick Barnyard (grab the August issue on stands now to read all about it) and I’ll be meeting up with everyone’s favorite gameshow mega-couple Pat Sajak and Vanna White when Wheel of Fortune rolls into town next weekend.

The Wheel will be taking over NOKIA Theatre in Grand Prairie to film three weeks worth of themed shows in three days, including Best Friends Week, North Texas Week and Family Week. And in between takes, I’m hoping to get Pat and Vanna to spill the beans on their personal parenting philosophies (they each have two kiddos), what it’s like working on the No. 1 program in the history of syndicated television and how they each successfully blend the aspects of both.

Plus, if I play my cards, um, spin the wheel just right maybe I can get Vanna to dish on her secrets to staying thin and entice Pat to share his staying-young/looking-young tricks of the trade (his 60th B-Day is coming up in 2 months!!).

I’ll be heading to the Wheel with our art director, Laura, next Sunday, so if you’d like to see any particular questions posed or want to send a few birthday greetings, just shoot me an email!

much love~
tessa

P.S. If you’d like info on attending one of next week’s tapings, contact CBS 11. Oh, and be sure to check out what Pat and Vanna had to say in our November issue!

Define “Kid-friendly” Restaurant

I’m curious – what do you think qualifies a restaurant as kid-friendly? Is it the finger foods, the noise-level, the ubiquitous crayons and color-it-yourself-menu, the smattering of machines that require tons of pocket change? I am asking because recently we dined out at a casual, pizza-buffet kind of place. There really wasn’t much for the kids to do except take notes on gluttony, but it was packed with families. In fact, many children were running amok (think: little hands all over the buffet) while parents dined obliviously (after all, your first beer or margarita was “free” that night). Also, one family must have decided that shirts for their boys were optional. Does kid-friendly also mean uncivilized?!? Email your thoughts. --shelley

Scored an interview with …

Brett Paesel!

The LA mom, wife, actress and writer is the author of Mommies Who Drink. Basically, I could have knocked out this book in an evening after putting the kids to bed, but I’m savoring every chapter because I don’t want it to end (and I’m one of the lucky ones – her book is just now hitting the shelves). I’ll be honest … the title intrigued me, but I didn’t expect much. Then I started reading it and it’s sort of like the “Curb Your Enthusiasm” for motherhood (in fact, Brett appeared on the show and little does she know that I am going to sneak in a question about what it was like working with Larry David – BIG FAN). Anyway, yes, Brett talks about drinking – she lives for her weekly girls-only happy hour. But, more importantly, she takes the reader on a refreshing, witty, autobiographical (and often R-rated) odyssey of what it’s like to be a woman living in a mother’s body.

Please send me an email if you have any questions you want me to ask Brett. Look for the interview to appear in the October issue. --shelley

It’s Coronation Time …

I was bleary-eyed and sluggish when Chris and I walked into the doc’s office on Friday morning, but the signs of my sleep deprivation were quickly replaced with a giddy exuberance (think: birthday-girl-blowing-out-her-candles-and-making-a-wish-just-as-Dad-rolls-in-the-pink-bike-with-a-huge-bow kind of happiness).

We got the Rx — just call me Clomid Queen!

I asked all of the right questions:
Me: “Will I have heinous mood swings that will make my hubby want to leave the country?”
Doc: “No, you’ll be fine.”
Me: “Will there be any other side effects like sprouting a third arm or turning purple?”
Doc: “You may feel a little nauseated and have a mild headache, but other than that, you’ll be fine.”
Me: “Is this gonna’ work?”
Doc: “It just depends on your body, but no matter what, you’ll be fine.”

I did all the right things:
• I squeezed Chris so tight I think his ribs are still realigning.
• I immediately found my mom (who works on the hospital floor above the doc’s office) and told her the good news.
• I took on a massive weekend project (decorating my little sister’s very first rent house) to keep my mind occupied and away from my obsessive-compulsive thoughts about the small slip of paper I had tucked in my purse.

And now it’s just a waiting game.

Here’s how it works: I chill out (sure, like that’s going to happen, lol) until every woman’s favorite “aunt” drops by for a visit, then I can start my first cycle. There are five 50mg pills (which, since insurance doesn’t shell out one cent to help with infertility treatments, packs a $400 wallop to the wallet, although Chris just called and said he confirmed with the doc that we could opt for the generic brand — only $150). I take one pill a day on days five through nine of my cycle. Then, starting on day 11 and every other day through day 15, when I “should” be in what I’ve dubbed “the O zone” (ovulation), Chris and I, well, um, ya’ know, do the laundry (always nice to toss in a Friends TV reference when possible).

On day 26 I’ll swing by a lab and offer up my VERY-HARD-TO-STICK veins so that a needle-happy phlebotomist can draw some blood to determine whether or not I’ve ovulated. The results are then faxed to the doc and the doc will then call me and let me if I was in fact in “the O zone.” If I was, we wait and see if Aunt Flo visits again; if she’s late, I pee on a stick and pray for a positive sign. If she shows, we rev up for cycle No. 2. If I wasn’t “O” then the doc will increase my Rx to 100mg and then I’ll repeat steps 1-100 until we hit we get it right.

As of today, I have (according to the best of my calendar-counting abilities - who knew there was soooo much math involved in making a baby … lol!) exactly 14 days to fill until the “fun” begins.

Not sure what I’ll do to whittle away the hours (Shelley would say “DO YOUR WORK!”). I do need to wrap up September’s feature (and work on my novel), but aside from that, who knows … maybe I’ll create a “how-to” crown kit for other local ladies who are striving (or are) Clomid queens. The fabulous little number sitting atop my head was handcrafted by Sabrina, our art director, Laura’s, daughter. (Thanks Bri Bri, you rock!). I look worn out (a weekend of decorating in the sweltering Texas heat will do that to ya’), but I couldn’t post another blog without looking like “royalty” (another shout out to the wonderful DallasChild paparazzo, Susan, for the pic!).

Chris and I don’t know that this medication is going to give us that “nudge” we need, but we’re hopeful — we’re trying to have some fun with a situation that can be anything but. So, until the stick says prepare for parenthood, I’ll be the one with the crown.

Have a marvelous Monday!

much love~
tessa

We Love Breastfeeding and It Shows!

Today, our publisher, Joylyn Niebes, and I accepted an award from the Dallas Area Breastfeeding Alliance for "Outstanding Support of Breastfeeding." Mayor Laura Miller gave the keynote address at the event and recalled her own determination to publicly breastfeed her three children. She was extremely gracious, entertaining and enviably thin. She also reads DallasChild!

Part of our core mission is to focus on stories that encourage moms to breastfeed their babies. We also do not accept any advertising from the formula makers. I saw many friendly faces in the crowd (who are always willing to answer our interview questions), including Stephanie Scholz Neurohr, who recently produced this beautiful DVD series on breastfeeding. Also - surprise! We got to sit next to my sweet friend Tracey Rauen - a fabulous childbirth instructor if you ever need one - who I met in Presby's new mom's class when our firstborn sons were infants. I also had the pleasure of meeting Nina Jones, who will be profiled in our Mom Next Door column in September. Nina is the president of the North Dallas chapter of Mocha Moms and the founder of a breastfeeding support group for mothers of color. It was such a warm and friendly event filled with women (and men) all bound together by a common belief in doing what's best for baby.

As a mom who is currently breastfeeding my third child and as a journalist, it was quite an honor. I guess I didn't mess up the acceptance speech too much (but I did drop the award - it was HEAVY ... I know you are laughing, Tessa). Thank you, DABA! -- shelley

Clomid Queen: Will I Get The Crown?

It’s 2am and I can’t sleep. I’m nervous and anxious and I’m experiencing a bad case of the “midnight mind” (translation: it’s what occurs in the wee hours of the morning when your body is tired, but your brain is wired – uugghh!). Too many thoughts, too little time, I guess.

My hubby, Chris, and I drove to Abilene (our hometown) last night for a weekend visit … well, with a twist. We’ve been on a self-induced “baby break” (meaning no charting ovulation, timing intercourse, yadda, yadda) since April and in just a few hours we’re going to the first “infertilty” doctor’s appointment we’ve had in months.

So what’s on the agenda? A big ol’ sash that says “Clomid Queen.” Lol! I’ve had surgery to “tweak a few things,” I’ve lost 35 pounds (and counting) and now it’s time to take the next step — amping up my ovulation. Our fingers are crossed (as are our toes, and any other body parts we can concievably cross without doing serious damage) that we’ll get a prescription to start the meds next month and that this will be the last “little nudge” we need.

On my way out of the office yesterday, Shelley (head-chick-in-charge) said she’d be sending baby thoughts our way and suggested that I ditch my plans to wear my “infertile myrtle” tee to the doc’s office — guess the “Barren” tee would be better? Lol!

Here’s hoping that the next “fertility” fashion statement I make includes a crown.

Happy Friday!

much love~
tessa

August Odds and Ends

Editors get a lot of e-mail. If it were paper, it wouldn’t be that much of a stretch to say we’d probably be buried in it, and you probably wouldn’t see a magazine every month. Some of it helps us communicate with each other and our sources, and some of it comes from outsiders wanting to bring to our collective attentions the latest products or events, ranging from the irrelevant (stock tips!) to the bizarre (Chia pets!).

I read (scan) it all, and I am realizing that my city is more dynamic than I often give it credit for. Here’s a bit of what missed the deadline, or didn’t make the cut for our August issue:

FLINCH Productions is a new theater company that debuts this month at the Stone Street Theatre in downtown Dallas. Although their schedule hasn’t been confirmed with any family-friendly shows, it might be just the thing for mom and dad’s next date night. FLINCH’s first play “COZY” opens August 17.

A Pea in the Pod maternity in north Dallas has a full schedule of pre- and postnatal yoga, fitness classes, and other events during the month of August. And, they’re conveniently scheduled for mornings and evenings, Mondays through Thursdays. Might be a cleansing breath of fresh air once school is back in session…

Oh, and Pat and Vanna will be here August 25-27. Good luck getting tickets (I can’t help you there), but Wheel of Fortune fans will be pleased to know that the north Texas taping is predicted to pump $2 million into local economies. Most of that will probably come from Vanna’s wardrobe. --Liz

Black, White and Red All Over

Straight from a Dallas fashion exec’s mouth, there is one color this fall that every hot mama needs to have – RED, RED, RED. I’m not saying go out and buy red everything, but red is the IT accent color for the upcoming fall season, especially when paired with black and white. One of my personal favorite indulgences are a pair of leopard print/red patent wedges from Guiseppe Zanotti (available at Saks and Neimans). As animal print is now considered a “neutral,” these shoes will go great with just about any outfit for fall/winter. Whether it’s a touch of red on shoes, or a necklace or even in a detail, red is the color you want to be seen in not seeing as the weather changes (for the better!). I know not every mama can (or wants to) wear sky high wedges, but if you’re up for the challenge, I assure you that you’ll get you’re money’s worth from them this season (and many more to come).

On the “red” note, there is a fairly new organization founded by Bono and Bobby Shriver, called (RED), that helps raise support and awareness for The Global Fund to Fight AIDS, Tuberculosis and Malaria. So far, companies such as American Express, GAP, Converse, Emporio Armani, and Motorola all carry their own specialized (PRODUCT) RED. A percentage of each (PRODUCT) RED sold, is given to The Global Fund to aid women and children infected by HIV/AIDS in Africa. It’s not only funky and fashionable, but supports an extremely worthy organization that helps mothers and their children have their chance at survival.

Also, look for our new style section (formerly “KidStyle”) to debut in our October issue. We combined Stuff We Like and KidStyle into one to bring you an even better version of fashion and style finds in the Dallas area. We’ll also be adding a style section to our babyDallas Fall/Winter 2006 issue out in October as well, so if you’re expecting or know someone who is, be sure and take a look!

- Lauren

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To Work or Not: Wait, What's the Question?

Earlier this year, one of my favorite mommy-lit authors, Judith Warner, posed this question: Are You In, or Out? If the title alone didn’t grab me the subject matter did: Why are highly educated, career-wired women leaving the workforce to stay at home with their kids?

I would be lying if I said the work-or-not conundrum hasn’t been a constant struggle for me since my first son was born five years ago. When I returned from maternity leave, my boss at the time (a guy) confided in me at a staff retreat that I was on the “VP-track” … “unless motherhood derails you.” I was mortified. And determined to prove him (that sexist!) wrong. But I now know he verbalized “that which must not be mentioned” in a PC work environment as a somewhat friendly attempt to prompt me to examine my career in the context of a new life.

When my son was 18 months old, I left the company (leaving behind an offer for a coveted post in LA – my boss’ job … he had been fired). Though my career was heading exactly where I had hoped (and had worked so hard to attain), the hours and abject commitment to a job rang hollow when I looked into my baby’s precious little face. I no longer had the same zeal for the crushing demands of a high-powered career.

Without a paying job, I finally got to partake in the activities connected to long stretches of free time: gym class, story time at the library, a random trip to the zoo on a Tuesday. I tried to write on the side, but I was often too exhausted to flex any creativity after a long day with a toddler (parenting is, after all, also work – and rewarding at that). Eventually, I returned to outside employment on a flexible schedule, focusing on my two greatest passions: writing and parenting (while still allowing big chunks of time with my children).

And everyday I continue to question my choice.

Maybe it is because others (particularly family members) continue to question it: “Why don’t you just stay home? Your kids will only be little once ...” is the oft-repeated, mostly rhetorical, query. Or, others feel obliged to share a different refrain, “I guess I’m just lucky that I don’t have to work.” Usually, I brush such comments off, countering that “I work because I want to.” The truth is I secretly wonder: Am I being selfish by wanting to work, even at a reduced pace?

Reading Judith’s essay, crystallized the dilemma in a way I could not: “Given the nature of work today, I don’t think it’s all that surprising that women who don’t take any particular pleasure in their work or have a particular sense of a professional calling or a particular need to make money should choose to opt out.” Bingo. The modern-day American working world sucks and if you don’t love, love, love it (and don’t depend on it), giving it up for a full-time mommy role (which is demanding in a different way) is a no-brainer for some women. You’re not lucky as much as you are practical. And, I’m not unlucky as much as I am drawn to a calling (and, when it comes right down to it, practical, as well). So, maybe the real question isn’t "Should you work (even if you don’t have to)?” but “How do you balance your own desires/needs with raising a family?”

--shelley pate